Good luck! LW, it’ll take some time but I think you’ll be OK! February 25, 2014, 9:06 am. Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / I’m In Love With My Sister (314 Views) (2) Re: I’m In Love With My Sister by HORLADSTAR(m): 1:55pm; hmmn, this one na yawa o. February 25, 2014, 12:24 pm. You are unhealthily fixated on your half-sister. Overview. The rapist in you is coming out. She is perfect. I'm in love with my sister and there is nothing i can do about it. Still inappropriate in terms of being involved with a minor (ignoring the sibling stuff), but not like a 30 year old praying on a child. And for that reason, I want to urge the LW to please, please get yourself to therapy. GatorGirl Wow. Recently she has been giving me back rubs and massages. I love you, Sister! I had really expected this to read “Please pray for me – pray that I not have these feelings anymore.” Idk, wees I guess. It doesn’t surprise me that her new lover is also an older man (the “eleven years older” strikes me as a bit defensive–seven years, eleven years, not a huge difference, sorry). You can learn to trust other people. One thing the LW doesn’t seem to realize is that although HE may have been blissfully happy when they were together, she quite obviously was not. After they had gone I saw my best friend Stormy. interesting and i read it as he left home when she was a teenager, so he would have been older than 18! And when I need a sympathetic ear, I always know I can count on you. February 25, 2014, 11:06 am. * Alternative Title: I'm In Love With My Little Sister / BokuImo * Genre: Drama, Romance * Film Date: January, 2006 * Description: Yori and his twin sister Iku used to be very close as children but lately Yori has grown colder toward Iku and is always eager to stay away from her. And you can learn to move out of the fantasy world you’ve created for yourself, where your sister fills the role of mate and partner, and move into a reality where healthy relationships exist. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected]. lemongrass Find someone you click with. Do you have others who you engage with? And Dilan nodded her head. Yeah, this is not healthy. February 25, 2014, 4:56 pm. Also, do any of you remember those VC Andrews books? For whatever reason, the two of you became co-dependent, finding a sense of security and acceptance of each other that you mistook for romantic love. Please explain yourselves down-thumbers. I actually thought the LW was a woman, though I’m not sure why. She swung her arms around my neck and held onto me as I picked up the pase, thrusting in and out of her with a bit more speed. I'm in Love With My Little Sister (2005) 05/18/2005 (JP) Romance, Animation, Drama 50m User Score. Oh, it can be daunting. February 25, 2014, 10:21 am. Find yourself a good psychologist or maybe a clinical social worker (look for an LCSW after the name). Cancel Post. Mwahahahahahaha. Yea, the “another man” comment made me believe the LW is a man. Now I dont say I know this for sure yet but a question. Iku was confused by Yori's attitude. LlamaPajamas the first time you slept with her she was either still a teen or barely out of her teens, and you were about 30. It would be interesting to hear! That’s exactly the book I was thinking of when reading this letter. I don’t like to be judgey, but you need to consider your actions and their effects. So I just want to note that you do not mention how others felt about the relationship. February 25, 2014, 10:24 am. February 25, 2014, 10:58 am. But now, over a year out of the break up, I would be the first to admit the relationship was unhealthy and I was too willing to give up who I was just to be with him…, GatorGirl If you love her, then space is the kindest thing you can give her right now. yea, i thought that too… brother/sister or not, its not healthy either way. But then the married couple made me rethink things. Find a kind and compassionate therapist who can give you the tools you need to confront your past and build a happy future. “I’m in Love with My Sister” I am 50 and my half-sister — we share the same dad — is 43. Hmm.. that's vert interesting becase you see, I almost have the same problem. That’s not to say that sibling relationships are OK, I just don’t think the LW should be overly hard on himself or avoid therapy because of the stigma. To be so emotionally codependent on someone that you lose your job? Do you have a nest egg saved up? Yet another reason why people should STOP having a kid or two with each and every partner. LlamaPajamas I also want to point something out: even if this were a conventional relationship, it is NOT healthy that you ask us to pray “that she wants to get back together again”. You can be helped. I actually also read it like the LW was a woman, until I got to the “another man” line. No answering calls, emails, and maybe even avoiding family functions where you might see her. Teenaged girls who have feelings for older men–whether family figures or teachers–and then end up involved with them never seem to me to be in a healthy adult relationship; it’s more a wish-fulfillment left over from childhood. I never knew that she had, had another girlfriend before kissing me. honeybeenicki Perfectly normal. Isikuandmete töötlemise lubamiseks Verizon Media ja meie partnerite poolt valige 'Nõustun', või valige 'Halda sätteid', et saada lisateavet ja hallata oma valikuid. However I will say that often people find solace and fulfillment in what they know or should know is taboo because for some reason or another the conventional is not open to them. funny how when we’re given ambiguous dates/ages we all kind of fill them in differently. i remember seeing a show about this, but it was more about long lost siblings, or adopted/long lost fathers/daughters or moms/sons falling in love with each other- not two siblings that grew up together (which i assume these two did? Bittergaymark February 25, 2014, 10:37 am. Hope you find peace with this. If the LW is 50 and the sister is 43, how could the math work out? I'm in love with my sister I guess. 4 Comments newest; oldest; most replies ; most popular; sdf. Usually when siblings form an unnatural bond, it comes from family dysfunction, possibly some form of abuse. Growing up my family kind of abandoned me and things happened to me that cause me nightmares to this day. I could see it was painful for her, so I kept slowly pushing in. LW, I think you are downplaying your personal responsibility in this. When she came into my life, she was immediately there for me and she became my sister. Y’don’t say!). I'm in love with my sister. Welcome! 748. You held on to a love for your sister, and wouldn’t let your self love somebody else for over 30 years! And B. Addie Pray Even though therapists aren’t supposed to judge, some still do. I've only really connected to one person in life, and that's my sister. The series focus on fraternal twins Yori and Iku, who fall in love with one another despite being siblings. I also want to add that you might have to “shop around” a bit for a therapist. She kissed her on the lips so passionately, then Nina pushed her off and said, "We're over, remember?" February 25, 2014, 10:42 am, applescruffs He picks, remembers, puts it back and closes his eyes until Jade says open. You had the higher level of responsibility. She let out a shaky moan as I kept thrusting in and out of her harder now that we both have gotten used to the feeling. Sure, the later age difference isn’t that huge, but he’d been “away from home” for five years–the implication is with minimal contact, right?–so these were, again, the crushy feelings of a teenager no matter how old she actually was. Still doesn’t make sense to me. February 25, 2014, 10:16 am. February 25, 2014, 9:29 am. February 25, 2014, 12:33 pm. February 25, 2014, 12:01 pm. Wait, I’m confused. Wendy, I love your first line because I don’t want to believe this is real. Here is what you need to do, start thinking about what would make today a good day and tomorrow. February 25, 2014, 1:26 pm. I’m just too curious I guess. February 25, 2014, 10:24 am. February 25, 2014, 2:15 pm. And when you do, your life will open in a way that it probably has not been open in a very long time, if ever. I’ve fallen deeply in love with my sister’s husband and don’t know what to do. The teenaged sister who loved her brother “differently” (and the “she told her friends” angle always strikes me as sort of wishful thinking) had to have been at most, like, seventeen, and probably younger–a. I kind of immediately thought of those while reading this letter. Instead of trying to be with her as a partner just try and be a big brother. I don’t understand how your comment could get thumbs down. The basic advice is the same whether you’re with your sister or an unrelated person. I’m wondering the same thing. Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. She wanted out and she got out. (I’m kidding, I get it.). So many thoughts have entered my head and i am starting to think would it really be that wrong to love my sister? A month ago she kissed me i freaked out and told her not to kiss me. are you serious ?? 9. bethany February 25, 2014, 12:27 pm. I woukdn't say I'm in love with my step sister but I do find her extremely attractive. Laura Hope Originally serialized in Shōjo Comic, the individual chapters were published in ten tankōbon volumes by Shogakukan from May 2003 until August 2005. When I check off things on my to do list outside of daily chores, I feel good. My first down thumb. It makes sense that you’re a complete and utter wreck after breaking up. Like many of you — the ages confused me. READ ALSO: BIZARRE: Man and woman viciously attacked by cat in Migori. February 25, 2014, 10:17 am. WildMan Dec 15 2012 11:42am FLAG. And get help. maybe not?) I really don’t care if you disagree with me, I’m just wondering. Re: I’m In Love With My Sister by Yusufisraelj(m): 1:57pm; Viicfuntop: YOu are a fuccking weirdo. Cassie Four years ago we were both single and we moved in together and did everything as a married couple, but on the down low. She was like a sister to me. LW pretty much threw out there they are religious (or at least on board with praying)…so the advice is VERY relevant. Seventeen and ten?) For four years we were happy. Just wanted to tell you you’re on my mind and I love you, Sister! it’s hard though because we have zero frame of reference for how old he actually was when he left home. What I can tell you is that your life isn’t over. Second, you may be in love with her but probably not best to be in a relationship with her. This was a long, complicated relationship and you’re in mourning now that it’s over. We live in the United States in the middle class with 2 parents. Edit- It doesn’t look like they are going to tell us lemon. Is there anyone, besides your sister, who would and/or has talked to you about what’s going on in your life right now? ktfran good man Sisishot Jun 26 2014 5:43pm FLAG. Please pray for me — pray that she wants to get back together again. We have always been very close. Honestly, the first therapist I ever went to, I felt judged and I didn’t care to open up. She told me she can't help who she falls in love with. I’m sure there are people reading this right now who believe — or who at least want to believe — that this letter is fake, but I have strong reason to believe it’s not. Two weeks later she’s living with another man 11 years older. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected] (be sure to read these guidelines first). A first step, LW, is to come out of the clouds and recognize that, while the relationship may have seemed like utter perfection to you, it wasn’t to her – otherwise she would not have broken up with you and moved on to someone else. OK, so why are people thumbing down this too? i think him being a teenager when he left makes it even worse. I am not at an ideal weight but when I put on an unwrinkled outfit and take the time to put myself together, I feel better. Tell your sister that you two must get back to a normal brother/sister relationship. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. I can't stop thinking about her and always fantasize about her. I love sleeping up in my old childhood bedroom, feeling like I’m 10 years old again and everything is taken care of. and a woman who became sexually involved with her brother and an indeterminate young age and now is with a different older man (though on the surface there’s no issue with a 43-year-old woman and 54-year-old man, for sure). I'm in love with my sister; abbreviated to BokuImo) is a manga series by Kotomi Aoki. His only worry is that the rest of the family will get to know and things may boomerang on the two lovers. Don’t get caught in the trap of thinking you can never be happy unless she comes back to you. I think that the maybe taboo of the relationship really spurred or deepened the strength of your codependency on each other (It’s me and her against the world, No one understands our love, etc, etc). Report this. February 25, 2014, 3:16 pm. So, if and when the LW decides to see someone, if the first one totally sucks, I don’t want him to give up. You need to take Wendy’s advice, and see a therapist right away, it is not healthy to have such an attachment, and not let yourself love somebody else. She wrote me letters and made promises we would never break up and told me that I was her soul-mate. Bittergaymark You need to focus on yourself and your mental and emotional well-being. ktfran So here’s the thing: cut off contact and get a therapist. You can move on. He feels that she prioritises their kids over him and says they don’t have sex anymore. Are you on unemployment benefits? As a kid, I was always excluded from all the cliques/groups , whatever. right?? You need to cut off contact. I am crushed. I, too, think the LW is a woman. I like how she looks and she has some really cool accessories (she has some really nice headphones that she lets me try on). Let her live her life and move out of the unhealthy role she’s maintained with you for so long. Wondering what other commenters think? You asked: “Is it wrong to fall in love with your sister?” I try to look at the question carefully to understand what, exactly, the person is trying to ask about. Oh LW, please please please get yourself to therapy. February 25, 2014, 3:24 pm, “Please help me. You can read about me here, peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. I had such a kick ass streak going. I know it's wrong, but I can't help it, she's the most beautiful woman I know, she's kind, she's wise, she's caring. WWS and WCS – break off all ties and find a good therapist. Unfortunately, it might not be the first person or even second person you see. Oma valikute muutmiseks võite igal ajal külastada oma privaatsuse juhtseadeid. And you might get lucky your first try. Read about I'm In Love With Your Sister by ODM and see the artwork, lyrics and similar artists. I’m going to call that the “Grassy Knoll Thumber Theory.”. Copyright © 2021 Dear Wendy. I guess? Go for a walk and get some sun and fresh air. February 25, 2014, 11:33 am. They’ve been having difficulties in their marriage for a while. Iku was confused by Yori's attitude. For anyone else I’d say recruit a friend to help with those steps, but I can imagine that given the unusual circumstances of this situation, it’s hard to bring anyone else into the inner circle to help. She could have been 18 when he moved away for 5 years, or she could have been a teenager of 13. floop hayhag Apr 14 2013 12:56am FLAG. She orders him around a lot in public and kind of hisses at him if he does something wrong. Yahoo is part of Verizon Media. That’s why I wanted to put it out there. But it’s true that he didn’t give us enough info to know one way or the other. LW, the problem you have is normally, people lean on loved ones and family after a break up and because of this taboo, you cannot tell people what happened or how it affects you. Since we were young I’ve always been attracted to “Carol.” When she was a teenager she would tell her friends she loved me “differently.” Christy The only reason I’m on my third is that I moved 1800 miles away. We have a relationship going and we don't date other people, so I guess we are in a kind of monogamous thing. — Missing Sis. February 25, 2014, 1:04 pm, It just depends on exactly when these incidents happened. Find out more about how we use your information in our Privacy Policy and Cookie Policy. If you have the means- get to a therapist. Any way you look at it, he’s much older, and while I’m not automatically saying he’s the villain in this, he had a responsibility and that needs to be considered. You can follow me on Facebook here and sign up for my weekly newsletter here. I'm 17 and my sister is in love with me. I'm wondering if you are taking the caring nature of your sister and making her a sort of "pseudo-girlfriend" or "surrogate girlfriend". LW, please find yourself a good therapist. We and our partners will store and/or access information on your device through the use of cookies and similar technologies, to display personalised ads and content, for ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. NOW. jlyfsh I was quickly moved into a hospital bed and they immediately started running tests on me. February 25, 2014, 11:01 am. The feelings you have for your sister are not healthy. I don’t feel like I want to live anymore. So we have a LW who has been attracted to someone who was, at the beginning, MUCH younger (“since we were both young”–HOW young? February 25, 2014, 12:28 pm. Please pray for me — pray that she wants to get back together again”. Two hours away, in the home he shared with his wife, Brian experienced the same thing. She isn't my sister by any relation she has just been there for me more than anyone else. I just wanted to point this out, because A. a lot of people will unfortunately find this LW’s situation slightly taboo. Agreed. February 25, 2014, 10:34 am. February 25, 2014, 1:40 pm, This makes me very sad. But after this I am not sure wich way I love her. You two have spent the last two decades folded in on each other, and you’re definitely going to need a professional to help you. Thanks for visiting! It was amazing. it’s one thing to start a relationship like this between adults, but if one of them is a minor it’s far different. LW, definitely take Wendy’s advice to heart. She starts him off with the whole pick a card any card routine. That was a pretty dark time in my life and my faith really helped me through it. Then I had to go back and read it again, imagining the LW as a man. That’s the bad news. Diablo bethany GatorGirl Such a relationship didn’t arise thanks to any parents of the year — you can count on that. I’m curious. bagge72 falling in love. Wendy (not Wendy) Oh noooooo! I'm in love with my sister, it's true, I am! What was best for me turned out to be him breaking up with me. Hi guys. I think it is a man, since he says his sister is with another man, instead of moved in with a man. February 25, 2014, 2:31 pm, At this point, you just have to sit down and have that long awkward talk with yourself – you know, where you digest these facts: it’s *you*, not them, it *is* personable, and there’s nothing nobody can do about it. In a good strong relationship you can still stand on your own two feet even without that other person. You can form other friendships and even relationships with other people. Plus you have weird sibling-bonding chemicals that are interfering with that. WWS. I know most people will find this disgusting, but what I wanted to really ask if someone else (please females only) has fallen this hard for their sister. February 25, 2014, 10:34 am, LlamaPajamas I love my sister and will always do. ktfran Ignoring the whole half-sister thing, it is not healthy to be this dependent on another person. katie peachy Good luck! Don’t be inveigled by her tearful calls – that’s wishful thinking. I even thought ANOTHER man meant the sister went BACK to men at one point. Since that day I've been in love with her and I'm sure she feels the same way about me. February 25, 2014, 12:22 pm. the therapists on that show said that the emotions of finding a long lost person so connected to you for the first time often will manifest itself with romantic feelings. Now you move on and get support in understanding yourself and why this untypical relationship has meant so much, too much, to you. It was the “another man” line that made me think the LW is a man. I just want to know WHY they don’t like what you said for another perspective. Please make your emotional and mental help your number one priority. This letter made me so sad. I hope you do too. I’m sorry you feel this way LW, but you need to get yourself to therapy. Yori and his twin sister Iku used to be very close as children but lately Yori has grown colder toward Iku and is always eager to stay away from her. February 25, 2014, 12:19 pm. That’s exactly what I was thinking and why I feel like the LW needs kindness more than anything right now. And I don’t doubt they love each other, but that doesn’t make this OK. (Really, Diablo? bethany February 25, 2014, 12:05 pm. That’s why I love my sister so very much! Confusing letter all around. However, I have started being turned on by her. February 25, 2014, 10:38 am. I have 13 different doctors came in and out of the room in 5 minutes. Oh, this makes me so sad. So LW, if you love her, you need to think about her happiness as well, which she’s made quite clear lies elsewhere, not with you. But you need a professional to guide you through that process. I know it in my heart she feels trapped by this guy. Listen to I’m in Love With Your Sister by Chingo Bling. February 25, 2014, 12:18 pm. The good news is you can break your dependence on your sister and find the kind of love you desire in healthier forms. Many break-ups are hard, but the fact that you have had feelings for your sister for over 20 years and your life is now falling apart definitely warrants a good look at how you got here and what to do next. I'm 10 and want to love my 5 year old sister im a girl Trinity Thompson Dec 12 2012 2:49pm FLAG. Information about your device and internet connection, including your IP address, Browsing and search activity while using Verizon Media websites and apps. Idk why either, but I totally pictured them as a girl-girl couple until that point. Hahaha, I love you AP. I told her i would never have sex with her it is wrong and she is my sister. Lianne You need professional help to get yourself to healthy mental state. Then start doing those things. Banana Friends & Family CONFESSION 1.6 years ago By Anonymous. Not sure why. And as others have mentioned, the sexual relationship seems to have begun when (at best) the LW was 23-27 and the sister was 16-20. You’ve had feelings for her for more than half of your life! lemongrass Or I could be wrong. katie I’m religious and I will say when I broke up with my ex I actually originally was going to pray to get him back…but then I decided to pray for “what’s best for me”. All rights reserved. I assumed he moved away for 5 years after college, which would make him 26 and her 19. February 25, 2014, 10:14 am. Diablo bethany Who would and/or is concerned? The scene with the brother and sister in the hotel room, having sex until they were both too exhausted and sore and emotionally drained in an effort to “cure” their feelings for each other? You need professional help to get through this. Join Napster and play your favorite music offline. It’s the same advice we have for everyone here, basically. I second the comments questioning the ages… I couldn’t get past that point so I was surprised the first comment was so far down. I can’t think straight or even eat right without my stomach being upset. What Wendy Said. Flowers in the Attic? lets_be_honest Song information for I'm in Love With Your Sister - Different World on AllMusic Join Napster and play your favorite music offline. I have since lost my job, let myself go, and cry constantly. I want to 1000th the “find a competent professional” comments and also the need for self-reflection on your part in getting this whole thing going. If she is depressed, tell your dad she needs more support. She's been there for you, she's held you, she's been an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. I think the therapist advice is spot-on but I have to feel for this LW because when you are THIS down in the dumps, the basic acts of researching, finding and trying out therapists may seem impossible. Speak up you down thumbers! He didn’t say he left home when she was a teenager. Really take some time looking for someone reputable and find someone you feel safe and comfortable with, because this is going to take a lot of time to work though. DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has agreed I should be her sister’s sperm donor so she can have the baby she longs for, but she has no idea that I am in love with her sister and have been for years. In this case, I don’t really think it matters all that much how we spin in… Still not good! She's a year younger than me but she has an old soul. So if I wanted to say “What Emma Said”, I would write it “WES”. I'm In Love With My Sister: Man Cries Out Danielokpomor 12 secs Relationships can be a very complicated thing at times, and some times we don't have control over who we fall in love with, but according to African culture, it is forbidden to have any Romantic relationship with family members, when though this is practiced in some parts of the world. I thought the timeline was something like he left home when he was 18 (she was 11), came back at 23, when she was 16. I'm in love with my sister, she is romantic, man claims.